When we lose our beloved pets.
The relationships we can have with animals is nothing short of magic. Feeling so connected to and understood by a being that you can’t communicate with using language is pretty incredible. They just get us. They can soothe our nervous systems (this is proven), help us feel safe, encourage us to play, comfort us, and they really do remind us what matters most. Our animals often see us at our most raw and unfiltered moments, both the positive and the not so wonderful ones. They teach us about nurturing another being, putting another’s needs above your own, slowing down, tenderness, compassion, and discipline. They help you get out of yourself and see the world through a different lens. Animals remind us what really matters and what is made up. It’s a symbiotic relationship where we need each other. We provide them with care and safety, they provide us the most magical love story. They really are true gifts in our lives.
Because of all this, losing your furry companion can hurt just as bad as losing a human loved one, however, this grief is different. Unfortunately, in our culture we don’t get the same social or work allowance for berevement. This can make this kind of grief feel so isolating. Since so much of our lives revolve around caring for these little ones and we live with them everyday, you might be faced with constant reminders of them not being there which is incredibly painful. Your schedule changes which can be hard without them there. You may also feel some relief after they’re gone causing you to feel guilt or shame. It’s complex. Just like grief in general, there is no one way to grieve. There are no rules here. Treat yourself with tenderness, you just lost what feels like a piece of your soul. Your body may feel heavy or restless, honor it and meet yourself wherever you are. You don’t have to pretend to be ok. Give yourself lots of grace the same way you would with a loss of any other family member. Honor your grief and honor them in whatever way feels right. Remember, you grieve that which you love. You’re grieving because the love between you was so powerful.
Questions to ponder.
What do you need during this time of grief?
How can you treat yourself with tenderness and care during this challenging time?
How can you honor the love between you and your furry little one?
